Bucks party Ethics: How Far Can You Go?

How do you know when you have done too much in planning a bucks party. Think pictures of nude people that artists have been creating for centuries. When do they stop being artistic expressions and become straight-up pornography? Both are created to elicit a response, so one could say the difference is in the response each one elicits. If it feels like pornography then it probably is. Bachelor parties work the same: when something feels wrong then it shouldn’t be happening.

So what sort of things are wrong and shouldn’t be happening at a bucks party?

If you are playing poker with your mates and knocking back glasses of premium whiskey and just enjoying the company of your friends, that’s harmless. It’s a typical male bonding thing no wife-to-be will get mad about. That.

Flirting

When your mates drag you to a club or bar, they may tell the strippers that it’s your last night of being single, your last taste of freedom. Of course, this isn’t true. Your last night of freedom was when you decided to commit to a relationship- it’s not an excuse you can suddenly use on your bucks night. Harmless flirting at a bucks party should be fine if it comes to nothing.

Going to a club just to watch strippers

It is possible to simply go to a Melbourne strip club just to watch but that is like going to a hardware store to stare at pipes and paints, or going to a restaurant to watch other people eat. It’s weird and it undermines the dancers and the rest of the club’s staff who work too hard for you not to acknowledge them.

Tipping a Stripper on stage

When a stripper performs on stage in front of you, If you put cash in front, she will shower you with a little extra attention. It’s not a lap dance, your fiancée might not like the idea of random girls grinding in front of you but you aren’t doing anything wrong.

The Lap Dance

Is a lap dance considered cheating? Look at it from a fiancée’s perspective. If a hot, naked woman is grinding on you, making you lust after her as she rubs her naked breasts all over you, how do you expect your soon-to-be wife to feel? If the grinding was from a random girl in a club, she would be right to dump you there and then.

A stripper has no other intentions other than to get more money from you. Your fiancée might be more understanding unless she strictly forbade you from having any lap dances.

Kissing a stripper

A kiss is a very intimate act, even prostitutes have a no-kissing policy. Kissing a stripper is just like kissing a random girl at a Melbourne strip club. The kind of guys that do things like that aren’t ready to commit and no fiancée would think it’s acceptable to do that.

Hand jobs and blow jobs

Dude. Anything that has the word job attached is a no-no. There is no law that condones the laying of hands or lips on your nether regions being performed by anyone other than your girlfriend, fiancée, or wife. If it happens you’ve cheated way before you could even tie the knot. Showing up later to the wedding because your friends left you naked, passed out, and tied to a pole in the next town is more excusable. You can’t say ”at least it wasn’t sex with a random girl”. That’s like saying Mao was better than Stalin but at least he wasn’t Hitler. Jobs are definite relationship breakers. If it comes out before the actual wedding, the whole thing will be cancelled. If you can hide it, hope that it’s a secret you can keep until death or you get divorced (whichever comes first).